Sherwood Couples Counseling
|Building Couple Skills... Providing Hope
John Sherwood
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, LPC — Certified in the Gottman Method
Since 1985
Guiding couples toward lasting connection
Gottman Method
Grounded in 40 years of relationship science
In-Person & Video
San Antonio, TX and worldwide
Every relationship has conflict. The couples who thrive aren’t the ones with the fewest problems — they’re the ones who’ve learned to talk honestly, listen without judgment, and repair after rupture. I’ll help you build those exact skills, and I won’t let you get stuck in the endless “attack and defend” patterns that quietly drive couples apart.
Habitual conflict avoidance is the single most important predictor of divorce — and it is entirely possible to change.
Relationships rarely struggle for a single reason. Here’s how I help with the challenges that most often bring couples in.
The discovery of an affair is one of the most painful crises a couple can face. Together we create a safe, structured space to process the hurt, understand what happened, and rebuild trust through honesty, accountability, and renewed emotional connection — so your relationship can heal rather than end in silence.
Learn more about InfidelityWhen conflict turns to contempt, intimidation, or aggression, it erodes the safety a relationship depends on. I help couples and individuals identify the triggers behind reactive anger, de-escalate volatile patterns, and express difficult feelings without harm. Where safety is a concern, care is coordinated with the appropriate resources.
Learn more about Anger and Domestic ViolenceAddiction affects the whole relationship, not just the individual. I work with couples to understand the role substances play, rebuild broken trust, set healthy boundaries, and support recovery — coordinating with treatment providers when needed so both partners can move toward a healthier, more connected life.
Learn more about Alcohol and Drug AddictionAnxiety can quietly dominate a relationship — fueling avoidance, reassurance-seeking, and emotional distance. Together we uncover the patterns that keep anxiety in charge and practice grounded, effective communication that helps both partners feel safe, understood, and supported.
Learn more about AnxietyDepression can drain energy, intimacy, and hope from a relationship. I help couples understand how depression shows up between them, reduce the blame and withdrawal it creates, and rebuild warmth, engagement, and shared meaning — while supporting each partner’s individual healing.
Learn more about DepressionThe emotional intensity and fear of abandonment associated with BPD can create painful, repeating cycles for couples. Drawing on evidence-based approaches, I help partners understand these patterns, strengthen emotional regulation, and communicate in ways that create validation, safety, and lasting stability.
Learn more about Borderline Personality DisorderUnresolved trauma can surface as hypervigilance, emotional distance, or reactivity that confuses both partners. I provide a compassionate, trauma-informed space to process these injuries, restore a sense of safety, and help couples reconnect without being ruled by the past.
Learn more about Trauma and PTSDReal change is possible — often faster than couples expect. Names are withheld to protect client privacy.
After fifteen years and a betrayal we thought would end us, John helped us rebuild something stronger than before. We finally learned how to actually talk to each other.
We came in barely speaking. Within a few months we had real tools, real understanding, and real hope again. It changed the direction of our marriage.
John moves quickly and never lets you get stuck in the same old arguments. His approach is direct, warm, and genuinely effective.
As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Licensed Professional Counselor, I provide marriage counseling to San Antonio, TX and globally through private video sessions. My goal is to move you through the counseling process efficiently — building the communication skills, understanding, and renewed connection that bring hope back to your relationship.